A big holler to all the smart ladies out there! If you already haven’t found the love of your life, or a date for the weekend, there’s a legit explanation for this. It’s not you, it’s them.
The findings of a fairly recent study reveal that men are less attracted to smarter women and are actively intimidated by the prospect of an intelligent partner.
Because successful men prefer the idea of dating less successful women not because they want their partners to be ‘dumb’, but rather because they want someone who would prioritize their life in a way that would be compatible with that of the man.
More and more women are breaking away from the clutches of patriarchy and are making their presence felt in male dominated fields. Contrary to the image of the ideal woman that Indian society has thrust upon us for decades, we now refuse to be coy little doormats. We know what we want and we’ll damn straight do everything we possibly can to get exactly that.
Men, even the seemingly intelligent, smart ones, are of the opinion that well read, opinionated women are boring and cannot take jokes.
The study reveals that men prefer women who will give up their lives for them, refuse to challenge them, fight them and refuse to see them as their equals, but their saviours.
While high intelligence in the male partner is desirable, females with high intelligence in male/female relationships is deemed to be problematic. Their intelligence is largely considered to cause problems in the relationships. If a woman seems too smart or accomplished, she’s typecast as “non-dating material.” If she’s witty and competitive, she’s viewed as challenging and overbearing.
Most people like to be the better one in the relationship. Men have been taught or conditioned to believe they are superior, and when a woman shows a competitive edge, he feels threatened.
Men aren’t ready to accept being second in the bread-winning competition and this is causing women to either settle or stay single. Women, on the other hand, are compensating for their unsuccessful dating careers with successful professional careers, and it is only widening the gap.
Career driven, strong-willed, smart women are considered to be intimidating and emasculating.
While most intelligent women aren’t pompous or arrogant about it, many times men assume they are. They assume the woman is going to correct them, upstage them or, God-forbid, make them feel worthless.But why does this have to be the case? Just because we’re ambitious and know what we want, it does not imply that we’re averse to the idea of finding the ‘one’ and settling down. We want men who would challenge us, stimulate us. Someone we can grow with. Why is that intimidating for men?
Men need to see that dating a smart, beautiful woman has its perks. How about being a power couple together?
Just because millennial women are career driven that does have to be essentially threatening. How about take each other’s ambitions into account, and grow together? She will be a partner you can have stimulating conversations with. Someone who will challenge you, someone you can take over the world with. Besides, with an union of intellect, imagine what smart kids you will have!
