Our weddings are extravagant and our society is patriarchal.
The combination of the two is obviously a high-budget celebration that has rituals which were made eons ago and hold no place in the 21st century.
Recently, though, people have been breaking the norms and we are so here for these progressive weddings.
1. This Bengali bride made waves on the internet after a video from her wedding went viral. During a ritual called ‘Kanakanjali’, she was supposed to throw rice and say that she has repaid her parents' debt. To this, she aptly replied, "You can never repay your parents’ debt".
2. In another Bengali wedding, the pandits were females and the ritual of kanyadaan was scrapped altogether because women are not material possessions that one can give away, you know?
I'm at a wedding with female pandits. They introduce the bride as the daughter of <mother's name> and <father's name> (mom first!!!). The bride's dad gave a speech saying he wasn't doing kanyadaan because his daughter wasn't property to give away. 🔥🔥🔥 I'm so impressed. pic.twitter.com/JXqHdbap9D— Asmita (@asmitaghosh18) February 4, 2019
3. This Pune couple did not reveal their surnames to each other's families because they wanted a caste-less wedding. Apart from that, they asked their guests to gift them books and replaced regular vows with basic principals like honesty, love and compassion.
4. In a sweet gesture, this couple touched each other's feet on their wedding to make a strong point regarding gender equality, despite their family members not being too sure about the idea.
A few months before the wedding, when my mother told us about all the steps and beautiful ceremonies of the Indian wedding, there was one contentious point: the touching of the man’s feet at the completion of the Indian Wedding ceremony. 🙌🏼 ~ “Why is only the woman to touch the man’s feet?”, we asked. “Why not both touch each other’s feet in mutual respect?” Mom’s shocked large eyes gave away her thoughts about what people might say if Oleg was to touch my feet in return. All the anties and uncles...wouldn’t they disapprove? 😱 ~ Though Mom’s traditional Indian background did not allow her to be sure about this being a good thing, we were sure. We would both touch each other’s feet in mutual respect from woman to man, and from man to woman. From a wife to her husband, and from a husband to his wife. 🙏🏼 ~ As we also decided to adopt, out of that same mutual respect, each others surnames. As from today onwards we are Oleg Büller-Khosla and Diipa Büller-Khosla. (whether it would be Büller first or Khosla first was still a discussion, but I let him have that one:))😉♥️ #thebullslas #indianwedding