How many of us have heard people go, she had it easy, she had a C-section? Ask any mother and she will tell you how far from truth that is. Childbirth is hard, really hard. No woman can have it easy. And shattering the myth around the Caesarean-section is this woman from Missouri, America, whose recent post on Facebook, hits out at all those people who think, giving birth through a C-section is actually not giving birth.
Just days after delivering her baby via C-section, Raye Lee took to Facebook, to post pictures of her scars post the surgery along with a very powerful message for all those who think such a procedure is much easier on the woman than a natural vaginal delivery.
Sarcastically, she writes,
"Ah, yes. My emergency c-section was absolutely a matter of convenience. It was really convenient to be in labor for 38 hours before my baby went into distress and then every contraction was literally STOPPING his HEART."
Later in the post, Lee goes on to reveal honestly, the toll such a procedure actually took on her body.
"Having a shrieking infant pulled out of an incision that is only 5 inches long, but is cut and shredded and pulled until it rips apart through all of your layers of fat, muscle, and organs is a completely different experience than I had imagined my son's birth to be. This was not pleasant. It still isn't."
Lee's post underlines and exposes a larger stigma attached to a C-section. While some women opt for the procedure, most of the times, it is not a choice and administered during emergency situations. And it is certainly not easy. Nothing about childbirth is. There is no reason why any mother opting for a C-section should feel ashamed or guilty.
"This was the most painful thing I have experienced in my life. I now belong to a badass tribe of mamas with the scar to prove that I had a baby cut out of me and lived to tell the tale."
Her defence has gone viral, since it was last posted. Even Lee did not anticipate her honest opinion would resonate with so many. In a follow-up post, she writes,
"So happy that people are spreading the awareness that not all mommies can deliver the 'natural way.' I am not weak. I am a warrior."
Calling a C-section easy, is unfair to all the women who undergo it. Every mother is a warrior, indeed!