Love finds itself in the most precarious places – today we found a kind of love that found each other in childhood, survived distance and fear in times of the world war, and kept itself alive with letters, sent and received with a time lag. Sounds damn unreal, right? In our times, it is difficult to realize this kind of a relationship and find a love so true, even with technology making the job a lot easier.
But at times, we do not need a reason to fall in love – love unknowingly becomes the reason for our existence. We bring an example of a different and inspiring kind of relationship, we found on Humans of Bombay, that stood the test of time.
They talk about being in love – the kind that happens over coffee, a walk, a childhood memory, a friendly worry, an old joke that no one else gets.
“We both grew up in Hyderabad, so I’ve known him since I was 7 or 8 years old maybe. He lived a little far off, but we would play together occasionally and always be present for each other’s birthdays. We didn’t tell each other that there were feelings — but words weren’t necessary. At 19 I went off to Cambridge in England to study English and we didn’t speak for months…but we were both waiting to see each other.
I finished my education and had been home for some time, when one day I was sitting under a shady tree, reading in the afternoon when he drove in. I thought he was there to see me, but he saw me and marched straight into my house. After a few minutes, when he came out, I asked him what he was doing. He replied, ‘I just went in to ask your father if I could marry you and he said the decision was yours…so If I may propose to you, will you please be my wife?’ — of course I said yes! A few months later he went off to fight in the World War II in Burma and those years were the most difficult. We could only communicate through letters– all of which reached me months after he’d written them. I began to volunteer in the Indian Medical Service just to be close to the war.”
“Fighting the War was terrible…we were surviving on biscuits and preserved foods for years on end. War was brutal and ugly. The worst part was leaving my wife behind…I was young and so much in love that each day was like a lifetime. Leave came in bits and pieces so I barely saw her but I wrote her letters expressing my love for her but they couldn’t do justice to how much I missed her. There was this once incident in the trenches where I thought I would be shredded to pieces – in fact the reason I’m alive is because a bullet hit my riffle and bounced off it. In those moments I could only think of her and how desperately I wanted to survive to meet her.
When the war finally ended and I was going to meet her at the Guwahati station, my hair had fallen out and I had this yellowish skin– I wondered if she would still even love me. But when I saw her, she embraced me and said, ‘you’ve never looked more handsome.’
I came back and decided to leave the army, because I couldn’t fight against my brothers who I’d trained with…who had saved my life on occasions — just because they were part of Pakistan. After 16 years in the army, I left and started a new life in a new India with my wife…and it’s been a beautiful journey. I’m 99, she’s 98 but it still feels like yesterday that we played our first game of catch and cook together — oh how I love her and what a life it’s been!”