Your home is supposed to be your safe haven. A place where you have the liberty to be the way you are, with the people you know. Unfortunately, some people are robbed of that too. Thanks to some creepy men who have no understanding of the word, consent.
A girl was filmed while changing clothes at her own home through a window by some guys in their 20s who had no regard for privacy, or a girls’ modesty.
This is her Facebook post that has been going viral, and making women angry everywhere:
This is what the post says:
“Today at around 12 AM, while on the phone with my friend I heard someone knocking on my window, and point ting to this note. I live in a fully gated colony (askari 1 apartments) and the window of my room looks out into a communal garden. Despite this, three guys in their early 20s were able to open my window and make videos of me changing my clothes. They slipped this note in and asked me to read it. I got pissed at their audacity because at first I thought it was them slipping their cell phone numbers to me, but upon their insistence, I opened and read this note. Once I had they DEMANDED that I come outside right now and listen to what they had to say to me. When I said no, they said it more forcefully ‘baahir nikal, tujhe batatay hain’ at which point I absolutely lost it and stormed outside my room with my father to give them a fucking piece of my mind. However, they ran away before I was able to catch them but I made sure that my whole colony woke up and heard what happened. The questions that followed were basically polite jabs at my character: why was her window open? Are you sure she’s not involved with one of the boys? As if ANY of that matters when somebody took videos of me in MY ROOM, without MY consent and then had the audacity to try and blackmail me without ANY fear of consequence because they knew they could get away scot free and they have. Consent for females isn’t even a concept in this country and I am DONE with it. I am DONE. This is not the FIRST time I have been sextorted, nor am I the only woman going through it. So when you all whine about the extremists in our government, the rapists roaming free, the level of sexual and physical abuse women face in their homes, know that it doesn’t come from a VACCUUM. The men doing these things are your sons, your brothers, your fathers and yourself. STOP ENABLING THIS TO HAPPEN TO THE WOMEN. Ghar main kaid kero aur WAHAN bhi jeena haraam ker dou.
It’s unfortunate to know that when the girl and her father chased away the boys, the neighbours questioned her character. Why is it that a woman is always thought to have led on the man? And how does the fact that the girl was or wasn’t involved with any of the boys change the fact that she was filmed without her consent. Doesn’t consent call for anything?
This could happen to any of us, and just like this, our character can be questioned, and maligned by people we don’t even know. We need to change this and educate people that consent is an actual real concept.
So, spread on the word, people, and be safe.