Just recently, we told you about a Gurgaon residency, Palm Grove Heights, which didn’t allow its resident Mohit Aggarwal’s guest, a female Spanish citizen Carlota Burrel Mas, to stay at his house because the society rules did not allow females to visit bachelors’ flats.
Carlota was here for an internship and planned on staying with Mohit for a few weeks till her accommodation was sorted. However, because of the uncooperative authorities, the foreign national had to stay in a hotel.
Mohit detailed the incident in a Facebook post dated 27th October. The post had various comments with people providing their own anecdotes and expressing anger at the situation but some people were in support of the decision taken by the residential authorities and went on to continue with the moral policing:
This reply states that ‘This is not acceptable by any parents in any society anywhere in the world’. Apparently, her parents should be made aware about the situation. This is the disgusting level of moral policing we’ve come down to where even the girl’s parents are being questioned.
However, Carlota gave a reply which shut everybody up, and for good. Here’s what she wrote:
I am the girl who was invited at Mohit’s place couple of weeks ago.
My name is Carlota, I am from Barcelona and I am 24 years old. First of all, I am a grown-up, independent and self-reliant woman so there is no need to let my parents know what I do and what I don’t but as we have a good relationship they were aware that I was going to spend couple of nights at Mohit’s house and actually they were really happy that a good friend was helping me out on the very first days in a new different country. They didn’t believe me when I told them that the security guards didn’t let me in, they could not understand why, neither Mohit or I had done anything wrong.
I have worked since I am 16 years old, I have a Bachelor’s in Humanities and I am doing an internship in Human Rights in Delhi. Hence, the stay at my male friend’s place doesn’t have anything to do with working, growing, competing or doing your own identity. Moreover I also have my own identity luckily since I am pretty young but it is people like you that oppress female gender to develop and to have the same rights that men have, it is because people like you that in some communities, women are stucked and cannot move on. So, no, Deepak, staying at my friend’s does not prevent me to work or grow. On the contrary, I am expanding my points of view and knowledge listening about his culture, his language and about India. But at the end I don’t really have to justify myself because who the hell are you to say what a woman or her parents should care or worry about?
By the way, I let you know that you don’t know what you are talking about when you say ‘this is not acceptable by any parents in any society anywhere in the world’. As I told you, I am from Barcelona (Spain, Europe) where I can go to my male friends houses to hang out, watch a movie, drink a beer, stayover, play cards or do whatever we want to do, there is no one that is going to tell me ‘You can’t do that’ and no one can forbid me the entrance at anyone’s place if I am invited by the owner as it would be illegal. I also know how it works in the rest of Europe and I can assure you that no one would say a single word against spending a night at a male single friend place (except very old people and very religious people, even my grandma accepts that I sleep at male friends house ) Seriously, nobody fucking cares if I spend some days at his place, because you know, there are more important things in the world going on and this is the 21st century.
Last thing you should know is that I don’t need the approval of any man, husband, boyfriend or parents because I am an adult, and this is only my own life, I choose how to live it, I take my own decisions and I don’t let guys like you tell me what I gotta do because no one has the right to tell me how I should behave or how to live my life. Worry about your stuff and let women be whatever they want to be.
Mas gave an appropriate reply to all those telling her what to do. She stated that her parents were actually happy that she’ll be staying with a friend in a country that was absolutely new to her.
“I don’t know what you are talking about when you say ‘this is not acceptable by any parents in any society anywhere in the world’. Even my grandma accepts that I sleep at male friends’ houses. I don’t need the approval of any man, husband, boyfriend or parents because I am an adult. Worry about your stuff and let women be whatever they want to be,” she added.
How sad is it that some people made a young woman justify her education and her upbringing.