It’s a myth that has been propagated long by our forefathers, who somehow thought that keeping the girls and the boys in dark about sexuality is good for them. But alas! As we moved towards societal evolution, it became okay for men to not be virgins and the onus fell on women. And thanks to that, we now tell our daughters to safeguard their virginity so that they can get married to an eligible man. 

We’re here to tell you that all the things you were told about virginity are BIG FAT lies. They are lies carefully constructed by society with absolutely no medical backing. 

So if you want to get to the educated, informed side, scroll down and bust the myths that society has so conveniently been feeding you with.

1. An intact hymen means you’re a virgin.

A hymen is no more than a thin membrane which is present at the opening of the vagina. Scientifically, it does not mark a woman’s virginity in any way. Because there are multiple reasons that can cause the hymen to hemorrhage, like cycling, horseback riding, gymnastics, among other things. Also, there’s a chance that a woman does not even have one. So, all this myth about hymen breaking=losing virginity is pure bull’s crap.

2. Losing your virginity makes your vagina loose.

Do not, under any circumstances, believe that loosing your virginity will have your vagina looking like a sloppy bear. No, it doesn’t. In fact, even after many years of having sex, your vagina will not become loose at all. The only thing that can alter your vajayjay is old age and natural childbirth.

3. You can lose your supposed virginity only once.

First off, the concept of losing virginity itself is faulty in every possible way. Secondly, nobody apart from you gets to decide when you’ve really ‘lost’ it. Mere breaking of hymen does not indicate anything. 

4. If you use a tampon, you’re not a virgin.

Inserting a tampon inside your vagina does not in any way mean that you’ve lost your virginity. A tampon stops your menstrual blood from creating a crime scene. It is in no way an object of pleasure at all. 

5. If you masturbate, you’re not a virgin.

Masturbation is an act of pleasing oneself and satisfying one’s own sexual needs. If you masturbate, I’d say do it more. Because, trust me, it does not take your ‘virginity’ away. But it does give an insane amount of satisfaction. 

6. Sex within the bounds of marriage is the proper way to lose ‘it’.

Now that is another big fat lie that we’re spoon fed by almost everyone. Marriage or no marriage, to have sex you need to be comfortable with the person and with your own self. Because otherwise, you’ll not enjoy it one bit. All kinds of sex is healthy as long as you’re happy doing it.

7. You will bleed and the sex will be painful during the first time.

That’s absolutely untrue. The definition of sex changes from person to person and couple to couple. You might bleed, you might not. Whatever it is, be assured that it does not determine anything. Every body is different and while some women bleed a lot during their first time, some women don’t at all. As far as pain is concerned, it all depends on your partner. 

Note: Breakage of hymen is not the only reason that can make you bleed and cause you pain. 

8. Virginity makes you more likable. 

First off, likable to whom? You are your own person, and if anyone does not like your sexual status, you can flip them off for good. Virginity does not make one pure and it’s absence does not make you impure either.

Most importantly, your body is yours to own and do whatever you want to with it. Don’t fall prey to such manufactured myths about sex and virginity. Just practice safe sex and keep slayin’.