Army Officer’s Wife On What It’s Like To Marry A Man Willing To Give Up His Life For The Country

As we sit in the comfort of our homes praising the Indian Army for carrying the surgical strike on Pakistan, on social media, little do we realize the extent of the rising tension on the line of control and what our soldiers are enduring for the country.

How many of us really bother to remember their everyday efforts and sacrifice in protecting our lives? Not just our soldiers, their families are equally deserving of our respect for having their brave sons, husbands, and fathers ditch the comfort of their homes and serve our country.

An army officer’s wife spoke to Humans of Bombay and shared how it’s like to be married to a man who with an undying love for his country.

Here’s what she said:

Believe it or not, the only way we kept in touch through the whole time was through letters. It was 2002 and cell phones had just come in, so we would write to each other about our days; about our lives. They were all innocent letters, but they were amazing because it gave me an insight into how simple he is as a person.

After marriage I moved with him to Bhatinda, where I was working as a lawyer from home. Those two and a half years that we were together were so special, but being a professional I knew that I couldn’t move around every 2 years with him and some of the places he was posted the only job available to me was that of a teacher, and that’s not what I became a lawyer for. Together, we took the decision that I would move to Bombay to pursue my career and he would continue his postings. It’s tough, it’s really tough but it puts so many other things in perspective. For one – our long letters have become long WhatsApp conversations!

We see each other maybe once in every 4 months, but those 15 days of seeing and being with him mean everything to me; to us — we have a 3 year old daughter. I feel like there are no words to speak of an army man’s passion towards his country. Here we complain about bonus and leave dates, but in the army you’re at the same rank, with the same pay for a decade before moving up.

That’s the thing, we only celebrate our Jawaans once they’ve lost their lives, but we need to celebrate them everyday. My husband has lost so many of his batchmates to war or technical failures. There are days where there’s no communication between us because he’s in an area where there’s no network and finally after days he’ll call us up to tell us he’s okay. It’s so difficult for us, and even though this is his profession, I don’t think there’s been a day where he’s complained — everyday he wakes up with a smile on his face because he’s serving his country.