Remember Phoebe’s lobster theory? The theory which is literally the basis of our love life? The one that gave us hope that someday we’d find our lobsters? Well, gues what…..


We’re sorry to break it to you but this fact proves that the ‘Lobster theory’ in F.R.I.E.N.D.S was another one of Pheobe’s made-up stories.


According to the lobster theory explained by Pheobe, a lobster refers to a person with whom you’re meant to be with, forever. Basically, it was Pheobe’s way of making us believe in soulmates by giving us a ‘real-life’ example. 

For almost 25 years, Pheobe made us believe that “Lobsters mate for life” and her theory always gave us hope that someday, we’d find our lobster. Just like Ross found Rachel.

However, the logic behind Phoebe’s theory was disproved by The Maine Lobster Marketing Collaborative, as a Marine Biologist burst our lobster shell. 

Lobsters, by nature, are not monogamous and do not pair for life. A dominant male will actually mate with multiple females during encounters that last days to weeks. A literal example of ‘love on the rocks.

-Curt Brown; Marine Biologist


It feels like our entire love life has been based on a lie. Why would you do this to us, Pheobe? WHY?

Is it a sign from the universe that I’ll never find my Lobster? And what if I do find my lobster, will I still refer to them as my lobster?