They say that love is blind. It’s kind of true, isn’t it. Many have been the times when we look back on an old relationship and realise just how awful it really was. If you’ve ever been in that situation, you’ll know what I’m talking about. Here are just a few of those mistakes that no one deserves to be stuck in.
1. The one where only the gifts matter
While it’s great that you shower your partner with attention, it can get old real fast if you’re the only giver in the relationship. Get out while you still have time!
2. The one where your opinions don’t matter
I get it. Your partner is a total genius. But no one can ever be always right. If you find yourself constantly agreeing to your partner’s ideas, and your ideas getting shot down every single time, you probably shouldn’t be here.
3. The one in which everything is ‘your fault’
So you guys had a great evening together? Of course, your partner is great! Your order turned out to be overpriced? You should have known better! That’s not how things work.
4. The one where your partner cheats on you
This is an absolute no no. Trust is the foundation of a good relationship, and if you can’t even have a little trust and commitment, what’s the point?
5. The one where your partner is constantly trying to please you
A good relationship is one in which both partners are happy to be with each other, and enjoy giving as much as receiving from each other. If yours is a relationship where you constantly have to assure your partner that you’re happy with them, it’s not worth it.
6. The one where your partner is constantly suspicious, for no reason at all
Again, trust is sacred. If you’ve done nothing to get that kind of behaviour, you should not be subject to it. Talking to your friends, or having a good time without your partner does not immediately mean that you’re cheating on them. This is basic stuff.
7. The one where your ‘no’ does not mean anything
If you’re not comfortable with it, you’re not comfortable with it. There are no two ways about it, and your partner needs to understand and respect that. Whether emotional or physical, you set your own boundaries and they’re absolutely inviolable.
8. The one in which you’re physically harmed
A physically abusive relationship can be extremely taxing and scary. While you may feel like he/she has some power over you, you need to realise that you are your own master. Don’t let anyone push you around, ever.
9. The one in which they make you feel like shit
Emotional abuse is just as toxic and scarring as a physically abusive relationship. If your partner makes you feel inadequate or worthless, stand up for yourself and get out as fast as you can. You deserve much, much better.
10. The one that you can’t tell anyone about
Relationships are a normal, healthy part of anyone’s life. If your relationship is your best kept secret, and you are embarrassed by it, you probably shouldn’t be doing this in the first place. Find yourself someone you can be proud of, and let your partner find someone better too!
11. The one that you can’t stop complaining about
No one has bound you down to this relationship. If all you can do when you think about your relationship is cringe and crib, why are you even here? There’s no point sticking around in an unhappy relationship after a point. Move on! There are more people out there.