Relationships are beautiful things that fill you with happiness… for the first honeymoon period. Sometimes, the coming together of two people is blessed and meant to be, but a lot of times, things just dissolve into petty issues and fights for superiority. After going through your fair share of girlfriends/boyfriends, you have to start asking yourself certain questions to narrow the field.
If you don’t want to go through another pointless relationship, then ask yourself these questions before you get into one.
1. Do I really like this person?
Sometimes, you’ll have an amazing time with somebody, then wake up the next day feeling like you don’t know them at all, which is never a good feeling. So try to avoid this.
2. Do I know enough about them?
This is always good to think about. You don’t want to end up with a chef who’s side business is disposing of bodies do you?
3. Do I like them for more than their looks?
They might be drop dead gorgeous to look at, but substance is important. You’ll never stay attracted to someone physically amazing but with the personality of a fish (A very boring fish).
4. Do I want to be like this person?
A relationship is a two way street. Spending that much time with someone, your traits kind of rub off on each other whether you like it or not. So ‘its good to know what you might start becoming like.
5. Is this going to be a serious or fun relationship?
Every relationship doesn’t have to be intense and complex. Just make sure you know how you want things to be so it’s doesn’t get complicated later.
6. Are they exactly like my previous partners?
If the answer is yes, then stop, drop, roll and put that fire out my friend. There’s a reason it didn’t work out before, and it’s quite likely it won’t again.
7. Am I emotionally available for a relationship?
If you’re still hung up on your ex or a past relationship, then it’s best to take it easy and see where things go rather than jump into it head first.
8. Are they spontaneous and exciting?
You don’t want someone who gets goo comfortable and stable. You want someone who’s exciting and challenges you. Remember, boredom is the enemy.
9. Am I in it as a rebound?
Make sure you really like the person and that you’re not just using them as immediate gratification.
10. Is he/she open minded?
Be it religion or other beliefs, it’s very important to be on the same page about certain things, which could otherwise lead to major problems.
11. Am I comfortable with their perceived flaws as well?
Being with someone isn’t all roses and butterflies. The more you get to know someone, the more you find out about their dark sides. Be sure theirs isn’t too dark!
12. Does he/she like me for who I really am?
Make sure they like you for you and not for the couple of good times you had.
13. Are we both on the same page?
It’s good to be different, it keeps things exciting. Some basic similarities should exist however, otherwise a storm will hit your relationship fairly quick.
14. Will one of us get hurt in the end?
While you can never know for sure, it’s good to know how people work and whether the 2 of you can handle emotional pain.
15. Am I making a mistake?
Do you really want a relationship or is it just loneliness? Figure it out before getting into something big.
16. Is it too soon?
Make sure you’ve experienced enough of life before getting into something. Especially if you’re too young.
17. Will he/she hold me back from my goals?
If they’re too needy or have unusual expectations from you, then you’ll have to make the hard choice between work and love. Better to just avoid it altogether right?