Marriages might be made in heaven, but couples have to make them work day after day, year after year, right here on Earth. Life might not always be a bed of roses but how you get past a tough time proves your commitment to the relationship.
And that's exactly what Tim Murphy made us realize.
Tim and Molly Murphy are a married couple based in California.
The couple had been facing a rough patch, and the inability to deal with the chaos
had Molly finding herself struggling to cope with depression. To help her remember how loved she is, her loving husband decided to surprise her by writing her a heartfelt note on their bedroom mirror about 'reasons I love my wife' while she was on a trip away.
Molly, touched by her husband's affection, shared the list on Imgur.
"I've been juggling a lot lately,
just got married. Couldn’t afford a wedding. Family is sparse. Falling out with friends, yaddadyadda. But, the thing is, amidst all the struggle, my husband has relentlessly tried to cheer me up,’ Molly wrote on Imgur. The list says: 1. she is my best friend2. she never quits on herself or me3. she gives me time to work on my crazy projects4. she makes me laugh, everyday5. she is gorgeous6. she accepts the crazy person i am7. she's the kindest person i know8. she's got a beautiful singing voice9. she's gone to a strip club with me10. she has experienced severe tragedy yet is the most optimistic person about humanity i know11. she has been fully supportive about my career choices and followed me each time12. without realizing it, she makes me want to do more for her than i have ever wanted to do for anyone13. she's done an amazing job at advancing her career path14. small animals make her cry15. she snorts when she laughs http://imgur.com/lCYGGb8I've been juggling a LOT lately. Trying to do well at work. Just got married. Couldn't afford a wedding. Family is sparse. Falling out with friends, yaddadyadda. But, the thing is, amidst all the struggle, my husband has relentlessly tried to cheer me up. I've not been the easiest person to deal with. In fact, sometimes I've lost all hope and even taken my frustration out on my new husband. But he somehow forgives me every time. I have a long journey ahead of me, and I know he probably realizes I'm depressed. But he holds my hand, and he tries his best. Today when I came home from a trip to SF, I flopped onto my bed in tears. I looked to my left, and saw these words painted all across my mirror. I think he wanted me to remember how much he loves me. Because he knows how quickly I forget. He knows I struggle to see good in the world, and especially the good in myself. But here it is. A testament and gesture of his love. Damn, I needed it today...I'm not saying mental illness is cured by nice words on a mirror. In fact, it takes professional care, love, empathy, sometimes even medication just to cope. Many people struggle with it mental illness - more than we probably even realize. And instead of showing them hate or anger when they act out. Show them kindness and remind them things can and WILL get better. Everyone needs a little help sometimes. If that person can't be you - see if you have any resources for therapy.EDIT: The thing is... I am not "too good" or "not good enough" for my husband. We all have our down days. And sometimes we don't handle it well. BUT, we are partners. He is here for me when I'm down. And I cherish that. And he has his down days, too. And I will be there to hold his hand, just like he holds mine. Life can be hard. The answer is never to mock, scoff, or belittle someone. Be kind. Be the best version of yourself. And be most of all- be patient.I'm still struggling, but I'm glad I have my other half to help me make it through. It may just be a few words on my mirror, but I'll look at them when I wake up and know I'm not alone. I'll know I have my bestfriend, my co-pilot in life to help guide me through.
Molly's post went viral within a matter of days and she has received a lot of support messages. Overwhelmed by the reaction, Tim decided to post his thoughts on Facebook. Here's what he posted:
Source: Tim Murphy/ Facebook With so many heartbreaks, somewhere down the line we lose hope of finding the right one. And even when we do, we struggle to make things work and feel if it's worthwhile. But people like these prove that true love still exists. There is always light at the other end of the tunnel.