A lot of guys don’t talk about their feelings, but rest assured, everyone has things they want out of a relationship that they won’t tell you. Nowadays, it’s hard enough making a relationship last, let alone finding out what your partner really wants. Don’t stress though, because we’ve put together a list of the things most guys actually want from their girlfriends.

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1. Mutual respect without ego problems

There’s no way a relationship’s going to last if she’s shallow and thinks you’re beneath her.

2. Real intimacy, not just a fling

An actual connection rather than just getting with someone for the heck of it is better for longer lasting happiness.

3. Adventures in the bedroom

Not saying get freaky with whips or chains but being up for new things in the bedroom keeps things fresh. Don’t hurt your back!

4. Spontaneity and a little craziness

If she doesn’t make you laugh, then she’s probably meant for someone else. It’s not harsh, it’s just true.

5. Being close with enough space of their own

This might be a personal opinion but if a couple isn’t chill then things get heated really quick and life’s too short for pointless disputes. Giving people their space is good as it keeps both your identities separate.

6. As few insecurities as possible

Everyone has them, but keep it under control. Insecurities are usually stupid, unfounded and petty.

7. Freedom from being judged

Guys want to be themselves around their girlfriends, and it sucks if they can’t because of what the girl thinks.

8. To be loved for who they really are

Even if they won’t admit it, a guy will groom himself to impress his sweetheart. He will even change the things she doesn’t like about him. But he also wants to seen for who he really is, and be loved for that.

9. A relationship that’s comforting through the bad times

Having the support of someone during tough times is something that brings people very close. Guys may try to not show weakness, but everyone feels bad on the inside, so it’s good to have a pillar of strength, plus you know you can depend on them then.

10. Guys also want to be pampered

Though guys try to put on a macho image, and love baby-ing their sweethearts, it’s not like they don’t love to be pampered themselves! A surprise gift, a relaxing massage, a loving gesture are all welcome and much appreciated.

11. He wants you to make an effort to share his interests

Opposites attract, but I draw the line if she doesn’t watch Game of Thrones. Get my drift?

12. Your guy wants you stepping up for him when someone puts him down

Yes he can fight his own battles, but he’s even stronger when you are on his side.

13. Some retro romance

Not saying she’s got to be all ladylike with high heels but as long as she knows herself, that’s all that matters.

14. Openness in communication, not beating around the bush by dropping ‘hints’

If a couple can’t talk about things freely, then doomsday cometh sooner than you think. It’s better to say things straight to the face than go through a long process.

15. A good taste in music

I’m being kind of selfish but yeah, a good taste in music = a good taste in alcohol = a good view on life.

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So now you know!