“Be more ladylike.”

and

“Why can’t you be more ladylike?”

She tried very hard to make me more graceful. More charming. More elegant. But I sucked at being a ‘lady’ because I didn’t quite understand what it meant. As I grew older and wiser into a bigger disappointment for my parents, I figured out my own rules to be more ladylike.

It’s okay if you can’t do it like a lady. Do it like a boss.