Building a loving long-term relationship takes time and a lot of effort. You might seem to be weary after a while, but that’s a part of building a relationship that works. If you’re thinking the initial butterfly-in-the-stomach and fireworks-all-along feelings are flying away, then here are a few lessons from people who have been through it all, telling you how did they not fall out of love.
I think staying in love is easier than people think. They just have some misconceptions about what love is.
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Loving someone is a choice that you consciously make every single day. Every day tell yourself – I’m going to love this person today.
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The love doesn’t really fade, it just evolves. Do stupid cliché things, and don’t forget to say I love you everyday.
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People don’t fall out of love first. They fall out of appreciation, respect, and friendship first. When you have a problem, instead of sharing it with others, share it with your partner. You both can’t solve a problem if everyone else knows about it, but you.
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Whatever prenotions you have on how love should feel like, notch it down. Learn how to communicate with each other respectfully. Butterfly-in-the-stomach feeling fades, but respect and communication should always stay.
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“Love” fades, you must learn to “bemin” someone during that time.
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Focus on the 9 things they did right instead of the 1 thing they did wrong.
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The feeling of love is the result of conscious actions you take to put the wants and needs of your partner before your own, not the other way round.
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Communication and appreciation is the key to a loving and happy relationship. It’s you two against the problems, not you vs them.
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Laugh together. Laugh about the mundane stuff, about those little things that irk you about the other, about life. Don’t take everything so seriously.
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Loving your partner is a conscious effort you take every day. Love them, respect them, appreciate them, and don’t miss out on communication.
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