But Dutch designer Mark Sturkenboom is out to change that! 

Mark has taken upon himself to ensure that women who’ve lost their husbands can still have sex with them! 

Or atleast, that’s what his newest project, 21 Grams, aims to do. 

This is an all-in-one kit that comes in a beautiful white box that can be opened with a gold-plated brass key that you can also wear around your neck.

Inside the kit is a dildo, of course, made of glass that can hold up to 21 grams of your dead lover’s ashes. 

Why 21 grams, you’re wondering? That’s because Mark took inspiration from the 20th century experiments suggesting that every human body loses 21 grams up at the time of death and those 21 grams were considered to be that of the soul. 

All those theories, of course, have since been discredited. 

Along with the dildo, the kit also includes a scent diffuser for you to spray any fragrance that reminds you of your loved one. 

Plus, there’s a tray in the bottom to keep a tissue or handkerchief or some kind of cloth. Totally convenient! 

Lastly, there’s a slot to also plug-in an iPhone to play the music that gets you in the mood to… well… make love! 

BTW you can get the box personalized as per your own specific requirements too! 

In an interview to DeZeen, Mark spoke about the reason behind this ‘innovation’!

I tried to open a new window for the way we reminisce about someone. We live in a time where we are able to manipulate life, adjust the way that we look, where the possibilities are endless if it comes to body enhancements, but there is one thing we still cannot answer, the unavoidable passing of life. But I can sure try.

Basically, if you’re still in love with someone who isn’t there with you, now, you can fuck away those blues! 

All images sourced from Mark Sturkenboom.